The Science of Success

Your Secret Weapon to Becoming Fearless with Jia Jiang

December 7, 2017
In this episode we explore rejection in depth. We talk about the incredible power of rejection, go deep into rejection therapy, look at the incredible results created by seeking out rejection and living beyond your comfort zone, talk about the magic of asking why, hear a few incredible stories from 100 days of rejection, and much more with our guest Jia Jiang. 
Jia Jiang is the founder 100 Days of Rejection and the author of Rejection Proof. In an effort to overcome his fear of rejection Jia spent 100 Days forcing himself into situation after situation where rejection was almost guaranteedJia has been featured on the TED Stage, Forbes, Business Insider, and much more.
  • Jia’s personal relationship with rejection
  • The misalignment between wanting to achieve and being afraid of rejection
  • The only way to overcome your fear is to embrace it and meet it head on
  • How to become a badass and become fearless
  • Saying no with grace - how to say no with grace
    • Show people alternatives
    • Give them something else / help them to get a yes in some way
    • Have respect
  • "Everything amazing and beautiful happens outside your comfort zone"
  • The amazing power of forcing yourself to constantly challenge and operate outside your comfort zone
  • The importance of understanding the vast majority will stay say no to you and why that doesn’t matter
    • It doesn’t matter when you get rejected
    • The few people that say yes make a huge impact - a real breakthrough
  • "How many yesses have I missed in my life?”
  • You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take
  • It’s not about getting a yes - it’s about EXPLORING and CREATING SOMETHING
  • The worst thing that can happen is you saying no to yourself
  • It’s about having fun and challenging yourself
  • Jia’s advice for someone who is afraid to take the first step
  • How to take the first step and overcome the inertia of facing your first rejection
  • Start small, just a little bit outside of your comfort zone, and grow
  • How you can even blend rejection therapy into your work and your career as well
  • If you ask enough, there is no request that will get rejected by everyone
  • What to do if you feel like you’re bothering people when you ask them for something
  • Be curious, don’t make your goal to get a yes - make your goal to ask 10 people 
  • Turning no into yes, and the magic of asking “why”
  • Ask people why they said no to you - find out what the reason is
  • What Jia learned from asking a stranger to plant a flower in his back yard
  • The power of doubt and empathy
  • Humor and positivity - don't take yourself too seriously
  • Give a stranger a high five! 
  • We go through a bunch of rapid rejection techniques you can use right now
  • You can do rejection therapy for FUN - or you can align it with you goals! 
  • Embrace rejection - rejection means something GOOD not something BAD
  • Rejection doesn’t mean you’re wrong - the stronger the rejcetion, the stronger your connection with people on the other side
  • The flip side of rejection is the power of people who are part fo your tribe
  • Jia’s Life Mission to the movement of rejection therapy